Ok I admit it. I like typing out sexual messages, be it in Facebook, Viber, SMS, or whatever medium it takes for one-on-one conversation. There's something erotic in exchanging sexually explicit messages. It's a blood-rushing turn-on for me, a tool for seduction, and ideally prelude to real-life sex encounters.
Sexting to strangers is definitely creepy. I only sext with people with whom I have at least shared some sort of intimate moment. The intimacy need not be even physical. It could be that we share a fantasy about each other. And my sext mate has to be totally, 100% comfortable with it. I have had sexts with old college friends – it starts off as an amusement but before we know it, we are exchanging fantasies about each other. It doesn't always lead to sex, but it can be fun – if not an ego boost to both parties – knowing that we have the hots for one another.
I don't typically sext with escorts. Part of me feels it's an act they have to play to get me to be with them. If an escort initiates a sext, I feel it's a sales pitch. It can be fun though if you have already set a schedule with them and they begin sexting as a prelude.
Initiating a sext can be awkward. You could be chastised – or met with dead silence – leaving you feeling like some desparate teen-age pervert. Both parties can be busy or simply not in the mood. I normally start by saying “I'm horny” and see how where it takes me.
I have learned that sexting should be treated like writing erotica, in the sense that you can't be half-assed about it. Trying to be coy and flirtatious about it is ineffective. Go straight for the jugular. Don't write about how you want to “insert your rod of manhood inside her moist gates of heaven.” Say you want to “pound your cock inside her cunt.” Sexting is not about being romantic with flowerly prose. Sexting is about raw, animalistic passion. Sexting is not lyrical. Sexting is not Shakesperean sonnets. It's heavy metal rock with parental discretion. In describing your penis, don't use words like staff, pole, rod, or manhood. Say cock, dick, penis.
Someone asked me if it is considered cheating if you are in a relationship and you sext with another person. For me it's a matter of intentions. Are you sexting because you are seducing the third-party? Are you fantasizing about that other person? Is it because you are bored with your existing partner and want some novelty? I'd rather sext with the person I am in a relationship with – it can lead to hotter, wilder sex.